"Fail, Girls, and Life: You like him because  he's a lost boy. Believe  me, I've seen it happen  before. But do you know  what happens to girls  who love lost boys?  They become lost  themselves. Without  fail.  David Levithan,  Every Day Lost boys, broken boys, dishonest boys, unavailable boys... I've spent way too much time over these past few months chasing after the wrong guys. Guys who didn't know or love themselves enough to ever possibly know or love me. Guys who were so hopelessly, desperately lost, they used parts of my soul as bread crumbs to try and find their way back. Guys who were quite literally drowning in their own lives and grasping for a life raft. But you know what happens to girls who allow themselves to become life rafts? They sink themselves. They get dragged into whirling, swirling cesspools of drama and chaos and dysfunction. They start to mistake mirages for the real deal. So the next time a lost boy tries to take your hand and lead you down his path of confusion...politely say no. Or even impolitely say no. But say no. You are not a life raft, you are not a compass, you are not bread crumbs, you are not a flashlight, you are not a bandaid, you are not a stop along the way as he attempts to ""find himself."" You are a whole, complete person who deserves another whole, complete person. Maybe you're saying ""hey I'm a little lost right now too."" And that's okay. But find your own way. Chart your own course. And never use another human being and their feelings and emotions as your GPS. Never look to another person to rescue you. Rescue yourself. Then you won't even attract the lost boys anymore. You'll attract the found ones."
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